I encountered what had to be one of the saddest things ever while out doing some last minute shopping on Wednesday. My husband and I had to run by a local chain store, I won't mention the name but I hate the place, and as usual my husband held the door open for me to enter.
No biggy right? Well there was a woman who was right behind us and of course Buddy waited for the lady and held the door for her. Again no biggy, or at least I didn't think so. She thanked my husband and then made the comment about him holding the door open for her and I simply said that was just the way he was. I have regretted telling her that ever since.
You see Buddy holding that door open for her meant a lot to her. She told me that it had been a long time since a man had done that and for some reason I got the impression she needed to feel like he had done that because she was special. I took that away from her by making the comment I did. I didn't make the comment to be catty but was simply acknowledging the kind of man I was married to but in doing so somehow managed to take something from her. Don't get me wrong she wasn't being ugly about it but the look of her being crushed by me telling her that he would have in essence done that for anyone took something away from her.
No one was mean or spiteful about any of this it was just what it was. It broke my heart that an action so simple as opening a door for someone could have such an impact on another human being never crossed my mind. As for the lady she just wanted for that moment to feel special to someone even if it was a stranger that she would never see again.
I know that in the future when my husband opens a door for another lady and if she makes a comment beyond thank you I'm going to keep my mouth shut. Buddy knows I'm proud of him and I know I'm lucky to have him without me saying anything. In the future should a small action from him bring a smile to another person then that's OK with me.
As for you guys out there listen up. I don't care what the woman looks like; oh and this one the other night may not have been young but she was attractive, at least to me, hold a door open for any woman near and take the time to smile at her. It is a small thing from you but you don't know how it might effect that lady. Maybe you are the only man who has done anything nice for or smiled at the lady in a long time and you may be the person who makes her day and gives her that little bit of encouragement she needs to smile at someone else.